Using a Vibrator to Tease Your Girlfriend

It seems to be a common assumption that all men are potentially ‘put out’ by their girlfriends owning a vibrator, and that a dildo replaces a woman’s need for a man. This is certainly an incorrect assumption. Plenty of women feel more comfortable buying a vibrator and using it to learn more about what pleases her best but ultimately a dildo or vibrator helps improve her sexual relationship with you. If your girlfriend does have a vibrator, incorporate it into your sexual play by you taking control of her toy.

Most vibrators will have a speed dial so make full use of the different settings when playing with her – start slowly with a low setting. Don’t just insert the vibrator straight into her vagina; use the toy to tease her women vibrator . Place the vibrator on different sensitive spots on her body – enjoy finding out which sensations she likes best by moving the vibrator over different parts of her body. Tease her by moving the head of the vibrator around the clitoris without directly touching it, until she asks you for more. For a variation hold her vibrator in your hand while you stroke her clitoris for a special pleasurable feeling.

As your partner builds towards climax, play cat and mouse, by slowing the vibrator again or withdraw it completely teasing your girlfriend until she moans for more. Women can find it hard to orgasm just through penetration alone, keep the vibrator going as part of sex, by putting her on top and putting the vibrator at the base of your penis will send waves of pleasure for both of you. Alternatively you could tease her clit with a sex toy while you take her from behind.

If you are not confident using a vibrator to tease and pleasure your girlfriend, ask her to show you what she likes to do with her own toy, what better way is there than to watch and learn? Another option to drive her crazy is a wireless vibrator – giving you the control over her orgasm. Nothing can beat the excitement of a man controlling his partner’s pleasure via remote control. Using a wireless remotes means the opportunities to enjoy this discreet toy are endless; get your girlfriend to wear it wherever she dares!

If you’ve never had an orgasm at all, or if you have, but were frustrated by the amount of work and effort it took, you will love having a vibrator. If you haven’t had orgasms (or enough of them) during intercourse, again — you’ll love having a vibrator! This is particularly true if you are not a frequent masturbator. Women who masturbate more are often more aware of what it takes to reach orgasm, but even so, a vibrator can make your orgasms more intense as well as more frequent. And guess what? Your partner will love it too. Here’s the buzz:

One of the best things about having a vibrator is the ease with which you are able to come when masturbating alone. Many women who haven’t had an orgasm with their partner need time to learn to create their own pleasure, learn their own body’s desires and patterns, and may otherwise never be able to orgasm during sex with their partner because of the intense stress and pressure to perform. Masturbation is a great way to learn to create pleasure for your body without feeling the pressure of expecting to climax. But using a vibrator takes away even that last part, because you are almost aways going to be able to come. And because it’s so easy, you’ll be freed up to really lose yourself in a steamy, delicious fantasy without worrying about how long it will take for you to finish up — say, for example, if you are expecting the kids home from school any minute. Don’t laugh, if you have kids you know what I’m talking about!

Not only will you be able to learn how to pleasure yourself easily and without pressure, you are likely be able (maybe for the first time ever!) to experience multiple orgasms. Many women who masturbate can reach orgasm, but it often takes a vibrator to learn how to reach orgasm more than once during a sex session.

When you masturbate, you begin to learn how your body works and how to increase your arousal. Once you know you can climax, and you understand what it takes for you to climax, you can teach your partner how to help you achieve orgasm. Because every woman is so different, a man can’t know what will send you over the edge unless you show him! Otherwise he may end up feeling like he’s tried everything he knows, and if you don’t achieve orgasm during sex he may feel he’s failed in some way. But you have power over your own orgasm! Once you know what it takes to excite you to that fabulous point of no return, you can demonstrate it to him. Believe me, he will love watching. A vibrator simply takes the stress out of the demonstration and makes the outcome that much more certain. Not to mention repeatable! And then you can literally put the power into his hands as well.